Want to truly be happier? Then do this.
I am going to share with you what has worked so well for me as well as for students who apply the concepts on how to be happy.
Before we start, I send you love, joy, euphoria, peace, health and infinite positive energy. Feel this. Allow your skin to tingle. Your aura to glow even brighter.
Now, let’s get started.
To start, the definition of being happy is feeling or showing pleasure or contentment. For example, “Melissa came in looking happy and excited.”
There is something very important in the above definition. What is it you may be asking?
It’s a feeling. And since it’s a feeling, it’s something we have control over.
According to Merriam-Webster, feeling is defined as “appreciative or responsive awareness or recognition,” “an emotional state,” and “generalized bodily consciousness or sensation.”
According to a study published in the National Library Of Medicine, mental practice, aka visualization produced nearly the same effects as actual activity ( http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14998709 ). Numerous additional studies confirm the same thing.
Before we talk about how to be happy more and more every day, let’s look at why we may not be happy.
When I recall my life many years ago, the main reasons I was not as happy as I could be and did not know how to be happy was because I was looking to other people for recognition of what I was doing for my happiness. If so-and-so liked me or accepted me, then I could be happy. In many ways, I was subconsciously comparing myself with others and there is always someone who is more skilled in any area than oneself. This lead to not only lack of happiness, but anxiety and anxiety further exacerbates the problem because it literally can freeze one from expressing their best self.
Lack of happiness can even show its ugly head through anger. Angry people are lacking in love, often self-love, and get angry at things that truly don’t warrant their overly emotional reaction. Anger also leads a person to say and do things that can hurt and/or offend people closest to them. Then those people want to be away from him or her, the feeling of rejection then makes one feel even less happy and the problem compounds on itself.
I think we can solve this, make the world a much better place, and truly make this world we are living in one much more of the milk and honey paradise it is. However, we need to adopt not just a new mindset but some new habits that have made all the difference.
Right now we have circuits in our brain that are wired in certain ways. What that means is that certain events will trigger certain responses. If someone sends you a message that says A, you feel filled with love. If someone else sends you a message that says B, you are offended. And message C, you feel sad, hurt, and maybe want to cry.
You may have already heard of different techniques to be happy such as expanding our gratitude, looking at people who have less than us and doing things that we enjoy. I ask you is it truly working?
According to who.int, “Depression is a common mental disorder. Globally, more than 300 million people of all ages suffer from depression. Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide, and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease. More women are affected by depression than men.”
That’s approximately the population of 90% of the USA. According to Time.com the volume of antidepressants is over $17 billion worldwide.
What I have done that has worked for me and all who apply it are a few simple steps. Come join me as we do them together.
Before we start, I want to emphasize that what we are doing is focused on going deeper. To your subconscious, on rewiring those neuro pathways so that you naturally feel happier without having to consciously force yourself to do it (which most people don’t remember anyways). And on tapping into the infinite spiritual energy in the universe to expand your happiness and joy to where it radiates like a bright sun.
Before we start, there is a key element that we need to do first. We need to identify a why for yourself beyond the superficial “rat race” of having more. For example, for me, while I do have 5 companies in various industries, the why for me is helping more people all around the world in a sustainable and positive way. By focusing on something that is beyond me I am happier and happier daily, more and more inspired and also find ideas come to me from the infinite positive energy in the universe more and more.
When I was focused on more for me, I was not happy. Despite how much more money I earned every month and possessions I had, trips I took, or who I went out with, it would never bring me more than moments of pleasure. Never lasting joy. It was like pursuing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, always out of my reach.
So right now, stop and write down one thing that is connected to what you are doing that will help make a positive impact on other people while at the same time bringing you benefit. Work in customer happiness and are complaining about how many upset people you have to deal with? Your greater mission could be to save marriages and improve lives by sharing your love and joy with others. Have an online business selling products and are frustrated with the numerous customer service emails? How about making your mission to make the greatest positive impact; really feel that and see these people smiling and happier and their lives improving as a result of what you have provided. Start with anything. Where you start is perfect.
I started with an idea and it has expanded and expanded and each day new ideas come. This is what gets me up early in the morning with enthusiasm and joy.
Now that you have identified a mission, a passion, a cause greater than just having more stuff, let’s expand the experience of already having this in your life.
What this will do for you is a) expand your gratitude. The more gratitude you feel (not just think), the happier you will be for all you have and attract more into your life, b) bring you more joy by sending great energy to others. By praying for others which is akin to forgiving, it is scientifically demonstrated that you experience greater happiness in your life, c) by experiencing the positive things related to what you want AND you greater mission, you start conditioning this as your reality in your subconscious. Since we think, speak, act and do things in accordance to our subconscious view of reality, we naturally will act in ways that are much more filled with joy and happiness. Additionally, the more we experience the things we desire, our body releases natural happiness chemicals such as oxytocin so we feel happier. Finally, the universe will bring to us the fastest, that to us which we are experiencing now mentally when our belief of it as existing now becomes stronger than our desire to have it. And d) By helping balance your energy centers, this also has been demonstrated to bring you greater joy and happiness.
Even more importantly, it will condition you to experience happiness. The more you feel happy and really expand these sensations, the more this will be your regular state of being. As an analogy, I really love training martial arts. If in a moment a person throws a strike at me and I think to myself, ok that’s a punch, I should dodge left and counter with a hook and then drop low and take him down, I’ll be eating a fist sandwich. The time to condition these reactions is way before the moment. It’s the same with happiness, the more we practice being happy the greater we will naturally act in happy ways. And to accelerate the practice, we expand the experience even more so that in fewer practices it sticks. It’s asking to remembering what you ate for lunch 2 weeks ago. Now, do you remember your first kiss? Expand emotion, make you be happy faster and more naturally all the time.
Find a place where you can relax that is quiet. In nature is great. Now place your attention on your head to your feet, relaxing each part of your body sequentially.
Now we are going to expand our gratitude for all things in our life. Beyond mentally saying that I am thankful for such and such, we feel it. We feel that tingling sense of joy inside us and allow it to expand more and more.
Now we radiate a white glowing light of infinite positive joy and happiness, we send this to people closest to us, those who we know, people all around the world, their families and out into the universe. As you give you fill even more.
Now, visualize and experience in greater and greater detail all you desire already realized especially the mission you have of positively impacting more and more people. Connect and expand with the positive emotions you associate with already having all you want. If you love animals and nature you can feel how you would as your favorite animal or tree. For example as free and playful as a dolphin, having no possessions as we define, yet owning it all in their sleekness, joy, freeness, and playfulness in the waves. Or a tree, as you sink your roots deep into the earth, feeling even more centered, joyful, and giving. Giving life bringing oxygen and slowly, surely growing and feeling greater and greater connection with the energy in the universe and others, what truly matters and brings true joy.
Now balance your chakras, keeping each circle open as you continue and bring all together to complete.
I do this at least once every day. Each day it will rewire your mind and spirit to be more and more happy.
Do it for 30 days and evaluate how you feel. First thing in the morning sets the stage to be happy throughout the day.
Throughout the day, I also give thanks at each meal, expanding the gratitude for the foods, the people who contributed, with whom I am sharing the meal and that it will give us strength to go and do greater things for others.
Light, love, happiness, joy, and may each moment be filled with more and more euphoria.